Tuesday, February 22, 2011

April 8, 2007: Lesson or Child?

I gaze at photos of my daughter and think, how can she be so beautiful?  Her shoulders, arms, nose, lips, long toes, her beautiful hands.  Such tender perfection I was only able to hold for a short while.  I wish I could have her here to hold and bath with mama care.

I feel cheated.  The anger and sorrow are married.  They take turns surfacing to fight and make me exhausted.  Tonight, I feel both.  I am vulnerable to their mission to breech and dive to a greater place of something--awareness? kindness? compassion?--all are a massive, disappointing unknown.

I want to talk about my baby as a baby and not as a lesson to understanding.  I hate it.  I hate relating this experience to survival on a boat adrift--some days I collect ample survival understanding and others I loose it all, never to be found again.  I feel so lost.

I wish I were exhausted from feedings, sore arms from baby holding, anything but this.  I loath this pain.  I do not want to be in this here and now.  It hurts too much.

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