Dear Friends,
The "birthday" of your deceased child can be so painful. For us, Nora was born and died the same day. Our memories are wrapped with pain. How do we hold a day like this, where the pain is a massive piece player?
Warmth...
In the hospital after her birth I was so cold from keening, grieving, hormones releasing. February being her birth month and all I want is for warmth--warm me to my bones colors and weather. This year I wanted to garden for Nora's day but the colors and weather are muted and grey.
Today, I just want warm. So I made a fire.
Burning beside something burning can be so cleansing. So I suppose that is what we grieving parents must embrace; looking to the elements (fire, air, water, earth) and feel out what ways we want to honor ourselves with the element's dependable help. After all, are we not all looking for dependability during this time of no certainty?
With Deep Love and Constant Support,
Grief Sister
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